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You’ve probably heard the advice “take a deep breath” a hundred times. And it’s true—deep breathing is a simple and effective tool to manage stress, anxiety, and depression. But what you may not know is how to actually breathe deeply.
Let’s try this: take a moment, get comfortable, and take a deep breath. You probably felt your lungs fill up, your chest rise and fall. Maybe you feel a bit more relaxed. This is all great, but according to breath experts (yes, it’s a thing), we can do better.
Most of us breathe from our chests rather than fully engaging our diaphragm, which is just next to our bellies. Breathing all the way into the diaphragm—really filling up on the inhale all the way to the bottom of our stomachs—produces a different physiological response than chest breathing. It can reduce blood pressure, increase the amount of oxygen in your blood, and reduce heart rate, to name a few benefits (of many). Some holistic practitioners also say that this breathing helps root into your core, allowing you to feel more grounded and clear.
Deep belly breathing (also called diaphragmatic breathing) can be a helpful tool in navigating the stress and anxiety associated with loss.
How to do deep belly breathing
Here’s how you can learn to do deep belly breathing on your own (adapted from this tutorial). It may feel a little unnatural at first if you’re like many people who breathe through their chests, but over time you can make it a routine practice. Aim for 3 good breaths in a row.
Disclaimer: If you have a lung condition like COPD or asthma, speak with your healthcare provider before trying any type of breathing exercise. If you feel lightheaded at any time, discontinue the breathing exercise.
Step 1: Get comfortable
You’ll want to start in a comfortable position, sitting or lying down on your back. Your posture should feel relaxed but not slouched.
Step 2: Place a hand on your upper chest
This will help you observe where your breath is really coming from. If you're engaging your diaphragm (deep belly breaths) properly, this hand should remain relatively still as you breathe in and out.
Step 3: Place the other hand below your ribcage
The other hand should rest on your belly, just above your navel. This will allow you to feel your diaphragm move as you breathe.
Step 4: Breathe in through your nose
The air going into your nose should move downward so that you feel your stomach rise with your other hand. It’s important not to force your abdominal muscles in the movement, just let your belly fill and expand without straining. The movement (and the airflow) should be smooth. Remember that the hand resting on your chest should remain relatively still.
5. Breathe out through your mouth
Exhale slowly through slightly open lips, letting your belly relax. You should feel the hand that's over it fall inward as you exhale. Again, don't force the muscles around your stomach inward by squeezing or clenching. The hand on your chest should continue to remain relatively still.
I hope that deep belly breathing can be a useful tool for you to take with you as you navigate the current global situation and any feelings that arise during stressful times associated with grief, loss, anxiety, and depression. Comment below on how it goes for you.